I hope you all had a Very Happy Thanksgiving. It is a time to be grateful. I,
for one, am grateful for all of you. You are the most unprecendented group of go-getters
that I have ever had the privilege to work with. And if we marshall our energy for the
next five years on these fabulous Results Projects that we'll outline in the next few
newsletters, we WILL ELIMINATE DOMESTIC MURDERS. You are angels. I mean it. BUT THE NEXT
FIVE YEARS ARE CRUCIAL. GEAR UP.
The Results book is going to the printer today. We had a very large
response from all of you requesting the book and I am so pleased. We are getting
endorsement cover letters from three national organizations, Senator Wellstone and Sheila
Wellstone and Gay Woodhouse, Wyoming's Attorney General. This is very exciting.
IF YOU SENT US YOUR NAME FOR BOOK ORDERS WITH A PO BOX,
PLEASE RESUBMIT A STREET ADDRESS. THESE BOOKS ARE GOING UPS OR RPS AND THEY WON'T DELIVER
TO PO BOXES. WE WILL GIVE YOU ALL ONE MORE CHANCE TO ORDER--BY TUESDAY PLEASE.
THANKS.
WELCOME NEW EMAIL CORRESPONDENTS:
Sally Sperber (Jr. League, London, England), Barbara Cappa (Jr. League, East Bay and
Oakland, CA), Eva Hassel Calais (ROKS, National Swedish DV Organization and Uppsasa
Shelter, Uppsala, Sweden), Kristen Jennings (Jr League National Office, NYC), Rebecca
Zwart (Asanti Health System, Grant's Pass, OR), Lisa Hackman (JR. League of Bergen County,
NJ-new email address)
NEWS FROM THE STATES, COUNRIES:
ARKANSAS:
This note is from Jerry at the Family Advocacy Program, USAF, Little Rock AFB , Arkansas,
Our office borrowed the Silent Witness figures from the state coalition offfice until we
can procure our own. The exhibit was a resounding success. It was estimated that over
220,000 people visited the Air Show and our booth was continueously full and busy. The
figures were very emotional to all that attended and reviewed the display. I sent by
E-mail, pictures of the display to our local state office.
*Thanks, Jerry, for a tremendous effort. It is good that so many people got to see and be
touched by the SW Figures.
CALIFORNIA:
Tasha Amador, from the California Statewide Coalition, writes this update: Just a quick
update on the "16 Days of Activism Against Violence Against Women" Worldwide
Event: (November 25, 1999 through December 11, 1999). I have confirmed 10 cities
throughout the state of California that will be displaying the "Silent Witness
Project" as part of this event. The cities are: Salinas, Long Beach, Los Angeles, San
Diego, San Francisco, Pasadena, Santa Barbara, Southgate, La Puente, and Santa Maria.
Thank you so much for all of your help in finding contacts at the Junior League chapters
in California !! I'll send you the press clippings for the newsletter ! What a wonderful
opportunity this will be to educate the public on domestic violence -- we couldn't have
done it without you -- thank you!
*And thank you, Tasha. What a grand coordination effort. Go for it.
Also from California this note from LInda Compo-Blazich, Visalia,
CA: We got sheets of wood (Particle board, I think) and we got a pattern and made our own
Silent Witness cut outs. We took it a step further and made children cut outs, too. We
have been really working hard on this project. It was successful for our Domestic Violence
candlelight vigil and Awareness Walk.
*Great work, LInda and Company. Another new exhibit for California. We love you.
And from the Jr. League of Los Angeles (Bonnie Wong): I have been
meaning to email you with a summary of our latest "Refuse to Abuse" Student
Assembly. It was held on Friday, October 22, 1999 (During Domestic Violence Awareness
month --- of course) at Banning High School in Wilmington, California. We had
approximately 600 students in attendance. Banning's student population is over 3200 in
grades 9-12. The ethnic population is diverse with over 50% of the students speaking a
language other than English in the home. Banning was very supportive of this program.
Their Assistant Principal, Dan Schar was very helpful in coordinating the assembly. They
were equipped with audio-visual and stage students, plus leadership and ROTC students that
helped with parking and directing people/speakers/students to the Auditorium. As with our
Spring Student Assembly, I believe that the program presented domestic violence
information to these students. We had students come up and ask the speakers questions
after the assembly. I feel that shows us that we made a difference!
Also, the witnesses have been on display at the following
events/locations: JLLA Rummage Sale- Santa Monica Civic Auditorium JLLA November General
Meeting - Santa Monica Fairmont During and after the "Refuse to Abuse" Student
Assembly - Banning High School - Wilmington Women's Seminar - All Saints Episcopal Church
- Pasadena - In conjunction with State-wide California Coalition for Battered Women
(SCCBW) Silent Witness Project --- "16 Days of Activism Against Violence Against
Women" South Gate - City Hall and Police Department La Puente - City Hall, Senior
Center, and Community Center Los Angeles - City Hall Haven House - 5K Run/Walk -
"Racing for a safer World for Women (Sponsored by Lady Foot Locker) With the Los
Angeles County District Attorney Office, we co-sponsored their Domestic Violence
Investigation and Prosecution Awards Ceremony at California Hospital Medical Center - Los
Angeles
*Wow, this leaves me breathless. What a bunch of go getters you are out there in LA. And
these high school assemblys are great awareness builders. They can change people's lives.
And from the Jr. League of Oakland, East Bay, Barbara Cappa writes:
I have recently taken over the reins of the Silent Witness program in Oakland/East Bay. I
have been culling through the newlsetters for ideas as to how to proceed. Our program
ceased for a time and now we are trying to reestablish it. We repainted our ladies,
attached updated histories to them and were able to have them at a BWA luncheon of 500 in
October. We are currently trying to find other avenues for them.
*Welcome back, Oakland/East Bay. We're so pleased you've reenergized your efforts. Keep us
updated for your next events and watch the newlsetter for new ideas on results projects.
CAYMAN ISLANDS:
This note from our dear friend, Joy Basdeo, who brought about ten women with her from the
Cayman Islands to the march in Washington and then brought several new programs back to
the Islands. I am pleased to hear how well Silent Witness is doing. Your friends in the
Cayman Islands send you greeetings and congratulations on the new book. We will begin our
fourth island-wide campaign for 16 days of Activism Against Gender Violence on 25th
November. We now have four Silent Witnesses and we use them for all our anti-domestic
violence axctivities.
*Keep going strong. We love to have allies everywhere in the world.
ENGLAND:
The JR League of London, represented by Sally Sperber,is very interested in pursuing a
Silent Witness exhibit. We'll keep you posted on their progress. What excitement is
brewing in the world for Silent Witness!!
FLORIDA:
Stephanie LIghter updates us on the miracles going on in south Florida: So much going on
here at NCJW Boca-Delray Section. We have produced two different stickers. One for all the
schools in Palm Beach County "Zero Tolerance," the other to be placed in women's
rest rooms with the national hot line number. Also we have printed 5,000 copies of a
domestic resource manual which will be distributed to 36 law enforcement offices and 87
agencies is the county. We will be making a formal presentation to the State Attorney, Mr.
Barry Kricher next Monday with the local media in attendance. Another SW exhibit event is
planned for a shopping mall for Feb 14, 2000 (don't you just LOVE the date! We will be
working with the Domestic Violence Council of Palm Beach Council which was formed by Mr.
Kirscher. Court watch is growing all the time and we now have 30 very active volunteers in
3 courts. We are already in the planning stage for next Oct DV vigil with a lot of new
ideas to create public interest.
*Lots of activity and new interest all the time in Florida. Keep up the good work. We love
seeing all that progress. It's so inspiring.
HAWAII:
Nanci Kreidman wrote us that they did have an October event with the Silent Witnesses
after all in Hawaii. This is tremendous news.That means 45 states used their Silent
Witnesses in some way during Ocotber.
*Thanks, Nanci and Company for getting up to speed so quickly with your brand new Witness.
KENTUCKY:
Sherriann Hamilton from Louisville, KY wrote us about how many lives may have been touched
by Silent Witnesses there during October: And I know this is a little late, but I did want
to let you know of a few SW activities that we organized here in Louisville. KY. I had
received a call from Anthem BC/BS asking the Center for Women and Families to have a
display table at their Health Fair. Knowing that it was Domestic Violence Awareness Month,
they asked me if I knew of any other ways they could highlight that as a part of the
Health Fair. I put them in contact with the Junior League to get the SW silhouettes, which
they divided among their 3 buildings during the week prior to the Health Fair. It had an
especially strong impact when a member of management realized that one of the ladies used
to babysit for his children. About 300 people participated in the Health Fair, but close
to 1000 saw the silhouettes in the 3 buildings! As soon as the Health Fair at Anthem
was over, I packed the ladies up and took them to the "Ending Sexual Assault and
Domestic Violence: A Kentucky Blueprint for Peace" conference I was attending. The
conference was sponsored by the Governor's Office of Child Abuse and Domestic Violence
Services, the KY Domestic Violence Association, and the KY Association of Sexual Assault
Programs. There were several hundred people in attendance from all over KY and from
surrounding states as well. The ladies made a big impact and hopefully the attendees will
take the idea back to their home areas and create displays of their own. The very next
week was the Take Back the Night March and Rally, which one of my co-workers here at the
Center for Women and Families was organizing. We set the ladies up at every entrance to
the park where we held the Rally so that no one would miss them. The collective strength
of all those in attendance, in combination with the unseasonably warm weather we
had, made for a wonderful evening indeed!
*Sherriann that was worth waiting for. What a wonderful series of events. Thanks for
taking the time to update us and thanks for the grand effort. We all appreciate it.
NEW JERSEY:
And this nice note from Leslie Frost, one of our fine coordinators in New Jersey: I'm
happy to report that our Silent Witnesses are in more demand than ever. I have had to
split them into 4 groups to accomodate all the requests. Two groups are out unitl next
year being exhibited at multiple sites by other women's organizations and two have
returned to rest until December when they go to local colleges! It has been so busy that
we have not been able to get them used locally again... will have to work on that for
2000! Silent Witness is getting well known and will be included in a local cable show for
NOW that I am taking part in at the end of the month. We, at NCJW West Morris are proud to
be a part of such a dymanic and active national organization. Shalom and Happy
Thanksgiving.....
*And we at National are thrilled to have such wonderful angels out there in New Jersey.
Thanks for all this great effort.
OHIO:
This note from Patrick O'Donnell, our newest Silent Witness coordinator, who has taken
over the reins of the Dayton Silent Witness exhibit: This week (all week long) the Silent
Witness's are at Beavercreek High School, a verylarge, suburban school near Dayton. This
morning, I went to the school to give an orientation about Silent Witness to a group of
students. One of the students who was tending the Silent Witness information table told me
the following story: She said a boy took a quick glance at the Silent Witnesses, then came
over to the information table and wrote in the comment notebook, "This is pathetic
and pointless." The girl saw what he had written and said to him, "Wait a
minute. You didn't even read what this is about. Take a minute and check it out." The
boy then went around reading each of the plaques. He came back over to the information
table, scratched out what he had written, said, "I'm sorry," to the girl and
walked away. Slowly but surely, changes are being made.
The Silent Witnesses also appeared at the State Farm Offices near
Columbus and we know that many people at State Farm were moved by the exhibit. The 23
Witnesses lined the hallway leading to the cafeteria. There are about 1,500 employees
there, so plenty of people saw the exhibit. There were many powerful comments written in
the "guest book." Here is a sampling:
- Thank you for making everyone aware of this sad situation. When people experience this
with friends they know, they want the whole world to wake up to this terrible scourge.
- Thank you Global Village Communications for making such a powerful display available to
the community. Our employees stood in silence and read the incredible stories. Every
person who saw the display was impacted. Some couldn't read them all, it was simply too
emotional.
- Frightening
- How can we stop this?
- Probably the most hauntingly realistic display I have ever seen.
In addition to hosting Silent Witness, State Farm employees also
volunteered at a Columbus shelter -- painting, remodeling, collecting supplies, etc. While
these initiatives happened during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I'm hopeful that some
of the folks were moved to continue their support on an on-going basis.
*This is such wonderful news, to hear that more corporations are getting involved with
Silent Witness all the time. Wouldn't it be great if all the corporations hosted Silent
Witness exhibits and several decided to become the first ones to declare themselves to be
violence free workplaces? YES!
OREGON:
We have a new Silent Witness exhibit in Oregon now, in Grant's Pass. It will be sponsored
by the Domestic Violence Task Force, the Women's Crisis Support Team and the Asanti Health
System.It was their hope to have a Silent Witness Exhibit in their county be this October,
DV Awareness Month. Contact person is Rebecca Zwart, Three Rivers Community
Hospital,Domestic Violence Advocate .
*Go Oregon. Another state with multiple exhibits. That makes 26 states with multiple
exhibits.
RHODE ISLAND:
Melanie Martin writes us from RI about her work with the sororities and fraternities at
the University of Rhode Island: Things went great at URI!! There were about 125 students.
The day started with someone from the The Women's Resource Center of South County talking
about the services that they provide and some domestic violence statistics. Then, I talked
about how Silent Witness came to be and then 4 girls read the stories of our witnesses. I
then spoke as a survivor of domestic violence and told everyone my story. Finally, 2 of
the fraternity members gave a brief self defense course. In total, all 8 sororities and 4
of the 8 fraternities were represented! We then went and made 10 witnesses. Some will be
donated to the University for awareness and some will be donated to The Women's Resource
Center. The energy was great and people were really into the whole day. When the witnesses
are complete, each house will have a representative stand with their witness out in the
center of campus. Next semester, they will also have a program so they can officially
donate them to the school. They wanted to spread out the awareness. Many thanks are in
order for the fraternity Tau Kappa Epsilon (TKE) and their president Joe Sanicola for
taking an interest in this project!! Also, thanks to all of the houses that were able to
attend!! I love this work and am so glad to be a part of a wonderful project!!
* And we are so thrilled that this work is spreading to so many college campuses and that
the men are so willing and interested in participating. Great work Melanie.
TEXAS:
Margaret, the mother of a Silent Witness in Texas sends us this powerful note: Good
Morning! I just wanted to drop you a note and tell you that I interviewed with a local
newspaper and told my story of Tammy's death at the hands of the man she was divorcing.
They printed Tammy's story along with a photo of me holding Tammy's photo for October
Domestic Violence Month here in our county in Texas. I know this is not a lot, but
was a little contribution on my part to help get the word out there to all those victims
who suffer at the hands of their abusers.
*This is not a little, it is a lot, Margaret. Thanks for keeping Tammy's story alive. It
compels all of us to work harder to get those murder rates down.
And this brief note from our wonderful Aly Morgan, a professional
singer who is bringing the word of Silent Witness to audiences all over America. I am
staying on the road a lot lately touring with Redemption and speeking out against domestic
violence. I will send you a long e-mail after Christmas. I did a press conference
the end of October with The family place here in Dallas.It turned out great. Redemption
performed and the press conference was a great success.
*And you are a great success, Aly, just for doing this fine work. The best to you.
NEWS FROM NATIONAL HEADQUARTERS:
BOOK ABOUT RECOVERY FROM CHILDHOOD ABUSE:
Kimbra Martin, author of a new book writes us: I am the author of Snapshots, A Rare Look
at Childhood Trauma and Abuse, (1999, Authorlink Press, ISBN 1928704018), a book that
narrates my own survival story and which has received critical recognition in several US
medical and psychological organizations. I believe this is a positive resource for
victims of abuse, and would very much appreciate your visiting my web site http://homepages.go.com/~kimbramartin/ ,
or the Amazon.com listing for Snapshots for an excerpt from the book, as well as author
information. I have found in my public discussions of Snapshots, and in radio and
television interviews, that the book has made it possible for silent survivors to speak
up. I believe it is because I was quite honest in my writing and did not sugar-coat the
truths of abuse and recovery.
NY OFFICE OF HEALTH PROMOTION AND DISEASE PREVENTION COORDINATES
EFFORTS WITH AGENCIES:
My name is Victoria Frye and I am the Coordinator of Domestic Violence Research and
Surveillance for the Office of Health Promotion and Disease Prevention of the New York
City Department of Health. I work with Dr.Susan Wilt, who is the Director of the Office of
Health Promotion and Disease Prevention and has been researching female homicide for many
years. As a local government agency, we at the Department of Health conduct various
research and surveillance activities to detect trends in domestic and non-domestic
violence. Using available data, we are able to classify female homicides according to
intimate partner perpetrator status, analyze trends in lethal assaults against women by
their intimate partners and identify at risk populations and areas. For example, we
recently found a significant over-representation of foreign-born women among intimate
partner female homicide victims and are reaching out to the advocates and professionals
working with foreign-born women and families. The information we gather is provided to the
public via web-site and print media and to community-based organizations (CBOs). This is
an excellent example of the devotion of public funds to one aspect of the issue of
violence against women. These activities may be replicated in many parts of the world.
While our system is far from perfect it has many excellent qualities and we would love to
exchange information with other countries and municipalities in the US and abroad engaged
in similar activities. Victoria Frye, MPH, Office of Health Promotion and Disease
Prevention 2 Lafayette Street, 20th Floor New York, NY 10007 (212)-676-2157 - voice
(212)-676-2161 - fax
SENATOR WELLSTONE AND SHEILA WELLSTONE APPEAR WITH THE SILENT
WITNESSES ONCE AGAIN:
Senator Paul Wellstone and Sheila Wellstone appear regularly with the Silent Witness
exhibit but I (Janet) had an opportunity to appear with them recently in a day-long
program focusing on using the arts to take on serious issues in our society. It was so
exciting to see their ongoing enthusiasm for the arts and for The Silent Witness efforts
all over the country. They are truly wonderful partners of ours.
I leave you today with a brief but pithy proverb that I hope will
inspire you to new heights.
"When the spiders unite, they can tie down a lion."
Ethiopian Proverb
Spiders of the world UNITE.
Cheers,
Janet
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