Nov. 10, 2000
Can you even fathom what is happening in this election? We're in the middle of an historical event of great magnitude. We'll all have to wait to see what happens.
You will be really proud of yourselves when you read all the wonderful things that have been happening around the country and the world this October. I hope you wallow in gratitude for weeks. Thanks again for all your good work.
WELCOME NEW EMAIL CORRESPONDENTS:
Haidi Jarschel(Coordinadora, Casa-Abrigo Vem Maria, Sao Paulo, Brazil), Phyllis Reynolds (Friend of SW, Montana), Rik Hurless (Treatment provider, Montana), Thomas Martin (Treatment provider, Montana), Stuart Klein (Treatment provider, Montana), Grace Hodges (Treatment provider, Montana), Diane Page (Treatment provider, Montana), MIchael English (Treatment provider, Montana), Sammy Brown (Treatment provider, prevention, Montana), Roslyn Gallagher (LCPC Family Based, Montana), Nancy Knight (VAWA Administrator, Montana), Dorothy Hocchuan (Phillippines). Lynn Rioth (Center for the Prevention of DV, Colorado Springs, CO).
NEWS FROM THE STATES/COUNTRIES:
Alaska's Silent Witnesses had a very busy month. Here's an update:
On October 2, two of the Witnesses attended the Mayor of Anchorage's signing of a domestic violence awareness month proclamation. The next day, all eight traveled to Girdwood (45 minutes south of Anchorage) to attend a three-day conference for most of the District Attorneys and State criminal paralegals. Marcia McKenzie, Alaska's Silent Witness co-director, was one of the opening speakers at the Conference and was paid an honorarium which she donated to the Alaska Silent Witness fund.
Immediately after the State conference, the Silent Witnesses attended a series of State-sponsored Community Justice Conferences in Anchorage, Kenai, Fairbanks, and Juneau. Following these conferences, the Witnesses returned to Fairbanks to attend a church-sponsored domestic violence weekend
workshop. There has been extremely good feedback concerning the impact of the Witnesses, and there was even some interest in perhaps having them attend parole hearings.
*Thanks for all this fine effort, Marcia and Company. We know that is quite an effort to transport the Alaska SW exhibit since it has to be flown everywhere.
Sandy Naatz sends us this great update from Phoenix: Check out this "carry-a-witness" idea!!
On Thursday, October 26th, The Relationship and Sexual Violence Program (RSVP) of Arizona State University, held a Silent Witness Day and Take Back the Night March for Respect as part of Respect Month/Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This year, the student group SERVE (Students Educating about Rape and Violence Everywhere), of which I am the advisor, decided to work with our local NOW chapter to update the Silent Witness Project. It was very exciting! The students got all the plywood, paint, and hardware donated and did all the cut outs, painting, and everything themselves. The day of the march, we got a student volunteer for each Silent Witness. The students "escorted" their Silent Witness everywhere they went for a day. If they went to the gym, the bookstore, the cafeteria, class, they carried their Silent Witness. Each one of them also had brochures explaining the entire project. At the end of the day, each student escort attended the Take Back the Night Rally/March with their Silent Witness.
The whole day was a huge success! We had over 150 people show up for the rally and about 80 participated in the march and candlelight vigil that was held afterwards. The event was covered by 4 news stations and the campus paper. Most importantly, Maricopa County now has a complete project to be displayed! In fact, it is now at the State Capital for a rally and will be on campus in its entirety again tomorrow for our closing event. Our event tomorrow is to have a positive ending to a month long of heavy programming. It's called the Hands Together, Respect Forever gathering. We try to get as many campus administrators, students, staff to gather at 11:45 and at noon we form a huge circle and hold hands for 60 seconds of Silence as a show of Respect for yourself, each other, and the planet. Last year we had close to 300 in attendance and we are hoping for more this year. This year the Silent Witness display will be in the center of our circle
This year, all of this is of particular significance on campus as one of the University employees was killed by her husband about two weeks ago
*I can hardly believe all the energy that is being generated on college campuses this year. It is thrilling and so gratifying that young people are really getting involved now. Thanks, Sandy and everyone who participated in Arizona. It sounds like a phenomenal success.
The Silent Witness exhibit in Arkansas traveled around the state to at least seven or eight locations during the month of October. It is coordinated by the Coalition in Arkansas.
*Thanks for that update. We are so pleased to hear that the Witnesses are telling their stories around the state.
Gael Strack of the San Diego City Attorney's Office sends us this web site on stalking:
Subject: Download stalking victim daily log www.sanctuary-stopviolence.org
*Thanks Gael for that valuable information. We need all the help we can get.
Lynn Rioth of the Center for the Prevention of DV in Colorado Springs reports that they had their third annual DV March with the Silent Witnesses as the focal point. The Event included a pre-march rally with live music. They had a good turn out despite the weather which is always iffy in October!! The local press was very supportive with front page coverage and three TV stations filming the march. Colorado Springs has 28 Witnesses covering 8 years of murders in El Paso County. Lynn also told us that the Jr. League of Denver made small Silent Witness figures for one of their meetings to raise the awareness of DV to their League members.
*Thanks, Lynn for this update. There is so much happening now it is mind boggling. Thanks for all the good work.
Lois Herman, our International Ambassador sends us this update on our friends in Brazil, including
Haidi Jarschel who is the Coordinator of Casa-Agrigo Vem Maria in Sao Paulo, Brazil.
I just met with Haidi and many of the wonderful women at Vem Maria in Sao Paulo. Haidi and I remembered each other from the Brazil Conference On Domestic Violence at which we both were speakers, in December of l999. I showed the Silent Witness video at this conference. Haidi was very interested in Silent Witness, and asked me to get her more information. I hand carried the Silent Witness video and book to her last month. She very much wants to be on the ListServe, and will hopefully launch Silent Witness in Sao Paulo, the largest city in Brazil.
*Thanks Lois, and welcome to the SW network Haidi. We look forward to working with you and learning from you.
This wonderful news from Geri Haynes in Sarasota:
Thank you for your encouragement and work for the past few years since I joined the Silent Witness newsletter list. I must share the excitement of our recent success. The Family Violence Task Force has been working on a plan (for 3 years) to submit to the Board of County Commission, in an effort to establish a zero-tolerance policy, and holistic community approach to family violence...we have called it a Family Violence FreeZone.
Yesterday, the commissioners unanimously approved the Family Violence Free Zone Proposal, and are doing so with a county resolution which will lend enormous credibility to the project. The decision was reported by our local newspaper and on the internet.
We are striving to be the first community in Florida to establish a
community wide program, and help us toward the goal of zero family violence homicides. Perhaps we can master early intervention for victims and batterers alike, and set the stage for prevention, as every citizen is educated. We will focus on all aspects of family violence, spouse & intimate partner abuse, elder abuse, child abuse and sibling violence, in the endeavor.
The Silent Witnesses were in the Commissioners' chamber during the presentation, as well as, earlier this month when the commissioners presented a proclamation to us declaring October Domestic Violence
Awareness month in Sarasota County. They continue to be a stunning reminder of the scope of the
problem. Thanks for the continued information on Results projects, I hope that we will see many of them implemented throughout the county.
*Geri, this is absolutely wonderful news. What a tribute to your hard work. Keep us posted on your progress with Results projects.
And Randee Lefkow, of Jewish Women International writes to us from another part of Florida:
I just wanted to let you know that in Broward County, Florida (Ft. Lauderdale area), on Monday, October 23rd, the KOLOT Coalition held a DAY OF AWARENESS to educate the Jewish community on domestic violence - to create an understanding that it really does happen in our community - and to foster
support for victims and survivors. Our guest speaker was Dr. Elaine Weiss of Salt Lake City, Utah. She is
a powerful speaker with a incredible personal story. We held 4 events - for women, rabbis, teens and the general community.
Thanks to National Council of Jewish Women (NCJW) in Boca Raton/Delray Section, we were able to have 10 Silent Witnesses for our culminating event - a Community Candlelight Vigil. They had a tremendous impact on participants. Over 15 organizations, led by Jewish Family Service and Jewish Women
International, banned together to further the efforts to stop domestic violence. Your work is a continued inspiration for us all.
*What an inspirational series of events! We are making headway in so many organizations in so many parts of the country. Keep up the wonderful work Randee and Friends.
Debra Mize of southern Illinois sent us this summary of their activity with the Silent Witnesses in October.
I wanted to let you and the other readers know where our witnesses appeared this month. They were busy and the
response to them was overwhelming!!
September 22--Seniorama a health fair that attracts over 2000 people annually. We had several of our women and children there and the people were often overwhelmed
September 30--A local community has a day filled with activities and booths for the residents. We had 6 witnesses and our clothesline projects. Several of the witnesses were known and brought
a lot of discussion and tears.
October 2--We held a ceremonial tree planting an a local historical park. Our witnesses kept us grounded in the mission. We honored them and all victims with a plaque stating, "In honor of all victims of domestic violence". The ceremony was well attended.
October 6--All the witnesses were on site at the county courthouse. We handed out 600 purple and white ribbons and information sheets about our services and the witnesses. People would walk by and then come back and read. One women's best friends husband spent
a lot of time talking about how frustrating it was to watch her try and end the relationship and then die. Prosecutors, defense attorneys and judges all were captivated by their stories.
October 16th through October 35th--One of our witnesses was displayed at the Body Shop at our local mall. (they have been a difficult place to get displays at). Her story was one that everyone talks about today even though she died 10 years ago. Both he and her families were rich and
prominent and break a lot of the myths of who can be a victim or a batterer.
(Thank you Body Shop)
October 18--A local college held a health fair for alcohol awareness. We had a booth with several witnesses. People always come back to see them.
October 19--Two witnesses accompanied me as I did a presentation to the Senior Citizen Police Academy in Fairview Heights. Again, people read and
wept, with each witness being known by someone in the audience.
October 21-Wal-Mart allowed us to have a display and hand out ribbons and
information. Witnesses accompanied them and brought alot of attention.
October 23--Our local Air Force Base held a training for the base commanders and the
saergents abour DV response. 32 in attandence. The room was bordered by the witnesses. (Scott Air Force Base made our metal witnesses several years ago)
October 29--A local styling salon held a fund raiser for domestic violence services and had asked for information. We supplied the witnesses and the clothesline project to help educate the participants and stylists.
October 30--A local high school had me come in and talk to the health classes about health relationships. Our witnesses were outside the auditorium where 1500 students and staff had access to their stories. They inspired lots of discussion!!
Throughout the month, the witnesses made appearances at local libraries,
community city halls, and college campuses. I can estimate that over 6000 people had some type of contact with them at some point. They continue to encourage discussion and get people to say things about DV that may never be said without them. It is amazing how people continue to believe they know no victim, yet every display brings forth friends, family and neighbors.
*Deb. I had no idea your Witnesses were that busy. They just never stop in October. What a wonderful thing you are doing in your part of the world. Thank you a hunderd times over. 6,000 is a lot of people!!!
Jimita Potter, our coordinator of Silent Witnesses in Indiana tells us that the Witnesses have been all over the state of Indiana in October. They are heavily used during domestic violence awareness month. The four Junior Leagues of Indiana share the sponsorship of the exhibit, South Bend, Indianapolis, Fort Wayne and Evansville.
*We are grateful to the Jr. Leagues in Indiana for staying with the Silent Witness for all this time. Keep up the good work.
In reading a brief summary of the Israel Silent Witness history I discovered that there is a second exhibit in Israel besides Jerusalem, in Karmeil.
*We are thrilled to hear that news and to know that the Witnesses are getting their voices heard far and wide in the world. Thanks to Hinda Gross and all our other friends in Israel for working on this.
Laura, at the Coalition in Nebraska tells that there are Silent Witness exhibits in six cities, Lincoln, Kearney, Omaha, Grand Island, Hastings and Scott's Bluff. She also reports that they had 3 domestic homicides in 1998, 5 (including one child) in 1999 and 8 in 2000.
*Thanks for all your great work Nebraska. We still have a lot of work to do and we are doing it as diligently as we can. We can heal this country. Believe.
We talked with Judy Miller at the Coalition in Nevada and she tells us that the Nevada Witnesses travel around to the various shelters in the state. Katy Hanson is the new contact person in Nevada. Welcome Katy. They made one new Silent Witness and had it done by the high school shop class. Also the Pyramid Lake Paiute Tribe made a Witness to honor a Native American woman who was murdered in domestic violence.
*Thanks for this update. We are so pleased to hear of the activity in Nevada. Keep up the good work.
There is an active exhibit in Shiprock on the Navajo Reservation coordinated by Gloria Champion and there is another exhibit in Silver City coordinated by Carmen Garcia. New Mexico Coalition is working to establish an exhibit in Alburquerque now. So there is action around New Mexico.
*Great to hear this update from New Mexico. IT is good that we have these annual events so we can talk to everyone and give everyone our gratitude for such great work.
In Oklahoma the Silent Witness exhibit that is run by the Coalition has been split up and given to the shelter programs. Eight or ten shelters use them according to Marcia Smith. They have 85 figures in all. In March they bring all the Witnesses to the capitol for Legislative Awareness month.
*Thanks to everyone in Oklahoma who is keeping the flame burning and keeping the hope alive. We are all in this together and it is good to hear what everyone else is doing.
Karen Jeffreys, the Public Relations Director of the RI Coalition has put together a masterful piece of work for us to use around the country. It's called Domestic Violence : A Handbook for Journalists. She did a professional research project to see how DV cases were treated in the press for a number of years and she used professionally accepted methods of analyzing the data. Then she got the help of respected journalists to put together this practical and interesting handbook for journalists. Here is the Table of Contents: Introduction, The Law, Domestic Violence, Statistics, Key Findings, Key Learnings, Materials to Publish, Resources. I would recommend that you consider buying a guide and providing it for your local newspaper. The press have been absolutely wonderful to Silent witness and I think they would value this handbook to help them be even more accurate and
knowledgable in their reporting. I learned a lot from reading it myself. It is $25.00 and can be purchased from the RI Coalition 401-467-9940 422 Post Rd. Suite 202, Warsick, RI 02888.
*Thanks, Karen and friends for doing such a professional job of reaching out to journalists so we can continue our rich collaboration with them.
SHIRLEY EARHART sends us this wonderful update from the South Dakota Coalition:
A component of the SD Coalition Against Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault is a State and Federal Certified Response to Domestic Violence Law Enforcement Training Team. This team uses the Silent Witness Exhibit on the last day of their training. The officers are asked to stand in a circle, next to a Silent Witness, read the story of that Witness and make a commitment to ending domestic violence on behalf of that Witness. It is a very moving ending to the training. At one such Training, an officer who stood next to the woman and her three children who were killed seven years ago, was one of the officers who had been called to the scene the day of the murder. He had a hard time with it, but was proud to stand beside her.
October Domestic Violence Awareness Silent Witness SD Coalition Events are/were: Public Awareness Exhibits in Banks, Shopping Malls, Court Houses; Marches, Candlelight Vigils, Fundraisers, churches, on display in store windows, using the Exhibit in conjunction with Trainings/Workshops. White Buffalo Calf Woman Society displayed them during their annual Spiritual Leader Brunch, their "Rally Against Violence White Buffalo Calf Woman, Inc. and Rosebud Casino Present the Area's Finest Bands" which is a band contest /
fundraiser. (they took out the violent words, 'Battle of the Bands' )
The following is a description of an event I would like to use as it was sent to me:
Silent Witnesses Are Part of Grand Entry At Black Hills Pow Wow
Donna Haukaas, Sacred Circle
National Resource Center to End Violence Against Native Women
Two Silent Witnesses were carried in during Grand Entry at the Black Hills Pow Wow by staff members of Sacred Circle, National Resource Center to End Violence Against Native Women, Rapid City, SD. The Black Hills Pow Wow is one of the most attended events of the year for Indian Country in the Black Hills area. Attendance of dancers alone reaches close to 1,000 participants, not to mention family members and spectators. Representation and recognition of women, who have survived violence by their partners, in Grand Entry at a
Pow Wow has been a goal of many native women and non-natives for many years. This year we were able to realize this goal at the
Pow Wow which is held in the month of October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Grand Entry is always highly anticipated because all of the dancers come into the area behind the eagle feather staffs, tribal and US flags, Veterans Color Guard and Pow Wow royalty representatives.
This year the Silent Witnesses were included with this group. This is usually a spectacular sight, an opportunity to see all the dancers together and it is the kickoff of the day and evening dancing. There was a total of six Grand Entries over the three day
event. Many years ago at a small community Pow Wow during Grand Entry, the veterans were being announced and a woman commentated that she was a veteran - a veteran of her own domestic violence war at home. From that time we have wanted to be part of these events as veterans of DV wars: to honor women who have survived, those women who have lost their lives and just as importantly to focus awareness of the on-going wars so many of us live with in our homes. The announcer explained what the Silent Witnesses were, who they represented and why we wanted to include them in the Grand Entry. As sponsors of the Traditional Women's dance contest we were able to have Cecelia Fire Thunder do the introduction: she asked the audience to stand to show their personal commitment to ending domestic violence.
The response to the Witnesses was overwhelming for our staff members, the dancers and many, many people in the audience. The presence of the Silent Witnesses was incredibly powerful. Many women and men approached our staff people to say thank you, to offer encouragement, to find out more about the Witnesses and ask if we might be able to come to their community to do the same at their POW wow. We were very honored to have the Silent Witnesses help us with this event.
My own personal thought as I was holding one of the Witnesses in Grand Entry was wondering how it felt for her to be at a
Pow Wow again. We felt their presence with us which created tears and strong feelings as we did this. We were very careful with the Witnesses and tried our best to do this in a respectful and honorable way for them. When we work with the Witnesses we
are very aware of their spirits being with us and helping us with this work. In asking the Silent Witnesses to be part of our work we treat them with love and care and in the most appropriate manner. If you would like more information please call Donna Haukaas or Catherine Grey Day at 605-341-2050 or Cecelia Fire Thunder at 605-455-2244. Thank you. Mitakuye Oyasin
*I am moved to tears by this story of the Native American Silent Witnesses in South Dakota being honored in this way. Thank you all for the powerful work you have done in bringing their stories to your nations.
Jo Manson with plans for next year already for Virginia Silent Witness:
We had our domestic violence subcommittee meeting last night and are very excited about what we are going to do with the program. We are going to use it at our kickoff meeting in January (the speaker will address the effects of domestic violence in the workplace, nice topic, huh?), March -- it will
be on display at our women of the year dinner and at our Austin Grill Fundraiser; and displayed at our Fairfax Fair fund raiser in June. Over the next couple of months we will work with the Victims Services and DV program organizations in the county to collect stories for the figures plaque and
purchase more figures.
*Jo, thanks for all this activity and being a fledgling SW organization you are ambitious indeed. We are pleased to welcome you to the SW network and look forward to working more with Zonta around the country.
NEWS FROM WORLDWIDE HEADQUARTERS:
28 COUNTRIES ON THE NEWSLETTER, SEVERAL HAVE SILENT WITNESS EXHIBITS:
These countries receive the newsletter: Argentina, *Austrailia, Belgium, Brazil, *Canada, *Cayman Islands, Chili, Costa Rica, *England, Finland, *?Guam, Guatamala, *Hungary, *Israel, Japan, *?Mexico, Nigeria, Palestine, Paraguay, Phillipines, Poland, Puerto Rico, Singapore, South Africa, Sweden, *United States, Uruguay. I've starred those that we think have exhibits. We'd love to hear from any of you about what you are doing for the 18 Days Without Violence or other events in your countries. Send your information to
SILENT WITNESS TRIP TO RHODE ISLAND: October, 2000
Rhode Island was magnificent. The trees were at their height of color and the events were as warm and wonderful as these final days in the October sun. Nancy Rafi, Melanie Martin and Colleta
Miller are the three active coordinators of Silent Witness in Rhode Island. Here is a sketch of what I (Janet) did in the three days I was visiting them.
**March to End the Silence, Program and Vigil: Providence, RI
We all met at St. John's Cathedral near the capitol and had a welcoming program before the march. Family members spoke of their loved ones, survivors spoke of their harrowing lives and their healing, activists spoke of unity and collaboration, the woman pastor spoke of our spiritual call to heal, and I spoke about hope. A few very moving moments: a mother told the story of her teen aged daughter who was murdered just a few years ago. Her niece who was about 15 stood next to her with her arms around her aunt while she told the story in tears. The high school where the niece attends is bringing the Silent Witnesses to host a special memorial service in the slain teen's honor.
A survivor told her story of her executive husband slitting her throat and leaving her in the driveway to die. Her neighbor who was a medic and another who was a doctor heard her cries and saved her life. She stressed that we need to be involved and not shut our ears to the cries in our neighborhoods, even if we think nothing like this could happen in our neighborhood.
At the service we lit candles in the names of all the Silent Witnesses who have been killed in RI in the last twenty years. 63 in all. One of the bagpipers lit a candle and then told us spontaneously that one of the RI Silent Witnesses had been a member of her bagpiper group and that she was especially moved by this event as it
memorialized and honored her friend.
We marched in the rain to the capitol but that did not dampen our spirits. We were escorted by a local police cruiser, by police on horseback, by a hearse, two bagpipers and by the RI Silent Witness banner which I was
privileged to carry. We carried the women's stories to the capitol and cars who were stopped for our march rolled down their windows and cheered us on. It was a sad occasion but also
exhilarating to see how powerful the Silent Witnesses continue to be and how loudly their voices still speak.
**Visit to the University of Rhode Island:
Melanie Martin arranged a meeting on campus for us to officially thank the fraternity TKE (Tau Kappa Epsilon) for their leadership in making Silent Witness figures this year. The Women's Center was represented by Carolyn Sovet and her staff and the Vice President of Student Affairs for the University was there and was impressed by the Witnesses. We took great photos and Matthew Welch of the TKEs promised us that he would personally recruit 15 other TKE fraternities to take on this project that had meant so much to him. One of the TKEs said that the reason that this project was so meaningful to him was that the last four women he had dated had been raped and he really wanted to do something to help them. That was really touching for us to hear. The sincerity of these young men was amazing.
** Other visits: I visited the RI Victim's Advocacy and Support Center to meet Annemarie D'Alessio who is doing wonderful things for victims and is a great supporter of SW in Rhode Island. We also stopped in at the Women's Resource Center in Newport where we meet Deb Linnell and heard about all their programming. We visited the RI Coalition as well and met with Francie Mantak, the public policy director and the public relations director, Karen Jefferys who just put together the great handbook that I mentioned in the RI section of the newsletter. We had planned to visit the YWCA of Northern RI but Debra Perry's mother had just died and it was not possible to visit with her. She is very supportive of SW there and was the person who physically carried the first Silent Witnesses to Rhode Island. My last night in RI Nancy Rafi and I met Jim Hardeman of Polaroid fame for dinner and caught up on the last few years of activism. Jim had just returned from Austrailia, China and Japan on his corporate DV training schedule. He is truly a friend of SW and it was great to see him.
*I'd like to thank everyone in RI who received me with open arms. I really felt the excitement and the energy of the whole group. There are wonderful things going on in our smallest state and there is a lot more to come.
MONTANA SILENT WITNESS STEERING COMMITTEE AND SELF MASTERY TRAINING:
The month of October was packed with activity and another highlight was the trip to Helena, Montana for the SW Steering Committee and Self Mastery Training put on by Rose Mary Boerboom.
First I'll summarize the Steering Committee meeting: Five states (Montana, California, Minnesota, Arizona, and Washington DC) were represented at the meeting which was great, and we had a mixture of SW organizations; the Jr. League, BPW, independent activists, psychologists, and trainers. We spent time, as we always do at the beginning, sharing with each other what has been especially meaningful to us about our work with Silent Witness. That always puts us in the mood to change the world. We watched the video and heard about the Silent Witness current goals and achievements to get a perspective on what we have left to do. It is energizing to see how much has already been done. sometimes we lose track of that when we are in the trenches.
Rose Mary Boerboom and Susan Brown shared the latest findings about what survivors need to succeed and to heal. Both of these women work with survivors and they have seen miraculous changes. Emotional regulation models work well with survivors to lessen the anger and anxiety and to help them make significant choices about relationships and work etc. There was much interest in this new approach to survivors which pushes us to add these programs to the safety planning and support groups that now operate. It is an exciting time in the field as we find new successful approaches to healing.
Rosalind Wiseman shared her exciting program for adolescent girls and boys. It's called Owning Up. She explained the underlying issues that girls face in the 6th and 7th grades that make them vulnerable to unhealthy relationships. She also shared the dilemmas the boys face at that age. Her program is successful, even with inner city kids and is in 40 schools in the Washington DC area. Principals say even the academic test scores of the girls go up, above the national average after attending the program. Rosalind is moving the program into New York City now and then into other large cities. She is taking a little time off in December and January to have her first child and we will gleefully anticipate this event with her.
We finished the meeting by brainstorming what each of us will do next in our states to bring these or other Results Programs into being. Everyone got a chance to share what their ideas were and to get support from the group. It was an energizing day.
**Self Mastery Training:
Rose Mary Boerboom spent the next day and a half with 30 treatment providers in Montana explaining the principles of her new program for perpetrators called Self Mastery. She taught us each the technique of self regulation and showed us how it works in practice in our lives. She uses the latest in research on brain functioning and psychology to show how change really occurs in people. It energized people and answered their questions about what has and has not been working in their own treatment programs. It is especially useful as a way to start each program for the first 3-4 weeks. After this foundation people can teach the other concepts that they are used to teaching.
Several people are ready to start using this model and ordered treatment manuals. They will report to Rose Mary on what changes they are seeing in their clients. It was very exciting to hear Rose Mary explain these concepts and tell many stories from her base of ten years of experience in working with batterers. It looks like a lot will be happening in Montana.
Rosalind Wiseman was at that training and got a change to spontaneously explain her model to this group as well. There was a lot of interest in this program as well and it seemed serendipitious that she as there for that extra day. Will wonders never cease.
All the Montana Silent Witnesses were at the session and it was so moving to see them at a training program that could save lives. It was as if they were
ushering in this new era of healing for Montana. We are so grateful to Vickie Amundson, Jerri MIller, Tracy Lakatua and the rest of their SW Board for all their work in putting this training on and hosting us for those four days. What a wonderful bunch of women they are.
JOHN PETERSON AWARD FOR OCT 1999-OCT 2000:
At the training program Diane Peterson (Tucson) announced which state would receive the John Peterson Award for this year. The John Peterson Award goes to the state that has made the most progress in moving successful perpetrator treatment forward in one year.
This year there were a few categories: First the state that got the "grandmother award" for moving successful perpetrator treatment forward in recent years was Minnesota for running five training programs and almost saturating the treatment community with self regulation models. Then the states who have run successful treatment training programs in the last year got honorable mention awards. They are Rhode Island, Wyoming, and North Carolina.
The grand prize award winner was Montana which ran two successful treatment trainings in their state in one year. Congratulations to everyone who works on Silent Witness in Montana for all your passion and hope. You are really deserving of the John Peterson Award for this year.
REQUEST FOR SILENT WITNESS STORIES FROM THE STATES:
We have two separate requests for two different things. Please try to accommodate them if you can.
Tara's Request: My name is Tara Waechter and I am a third year law student at DePaul University in Chicago. I am currently conducting research for law professor Morrison Torrey relating to the ineffectiveness of orders of protection. We are in search of ANY narratives of women who have been killed by their abuser. If the woman had an order for protection that would be better but any narratives would be OK. I have seen the amazing Silent Witness Project in Arizona and am in search of narratives like the ones on the statutes. I would appreciate any help you can provide! Thank you in advance for your cooperation. Email the stories to me at: Tara
Waechter email@example.com .
*Tara, on the Silent Witness web site there is a list of the twenty-seven original Silent
Witnesses. I know that one was killed an hour or two after she has obtained a restraining order from the court.
ALY MORGAN HAS A CLARIFICATION OF HER REQUEST FROM THE LAST NEWSLETTER:
Dear Janet , Thank you so much for letting everyone know What I needed, but I think some of them misunderstood. What I need is The state's PLAQUE with the stories on them so I could put them on the statues of the women I already have. I don't need email summaries but actual plagues if that's possible. I do thank you so much.
Send them (just one per state is enough) to Aly Morgan, 323 North 9th street Paducah
Her email is firstname.lastname@example.org if you have need for clarification.
STATES ON BOARD FOR OCTOBER SILENT WITNESS EVENTS:
41 states/countries had Silent Witness activities in October: That is fabulous. Great work.
We'll give you a final tally when we've talked to all of the states. Thanks again. Congratulations on a great year.
NCJW AWARD FOR SILENT WITNESS:
The National Council of Jewish Women has awarded a Grass Roots Leadership Award to Janet Hagberg (but really to Silent Witness!!) and will give the award at the major conference in Washington DC in March.
This is a wonderful honor and we will give you more details in subsequent newsletters. We're thinking of having a Silent Witness gathering in Washington and making a little party of it, maybe even offer you a chance to hear from Rosalind Wiseman on her Owning Up program while you're in Washington. Circle March 14-15 on your calendar.
WEB SITE FOR NON-PARTISAN INFORMATION ABOUT POLITICS:
There is a new web site dedicated to learning about political views from various candidates. It is a sponsored by a non-partisan, non-advocacy, non-profit organization, the Markle Foundation. Recently it hosted the first ever online presidential debate with their ideas on domestic violence. The question below was given to the
Presidential candidates: You might check to see if their answers are still there. Their web site is
What are your views on the issue of domestic violence and how do you think the government can work to prevent violence against women?
Submitted from Felicia of Boca Raton, Florida through iVillage.com (10/13/00)
Please go to http://www.webwhiteblue.org/debate/2000-10-13/
and scroll down to 'Question of the Day' for the candidates' answers.
I leave you today with a quote that Nancy Rafi gave me when I was visiting Rhode Island . It is a quote from Brian Andreas, an artist we both enjoy. It speaks for itself.
In my dream, the angel shrugged and said, "If we fail this time, it will be a failure of imagination." And then she placed the world gently in the palm of my hand.