May 2, 2003
It felt to me like many people in the world were holding their collective
breath during the last six weeks or so. Now I'm sensing a quickening
of people's spirits and more activity. There is so much good will
Silent Witness network and it feels awesome to me when I put together
newsletter, just to read what you all are doing. And thanks to those
who tell me how you use the newsletter and how much it means to you.
woman told me she takes every issue to a task force at a college in her
town and they decide which ideas they could use in their area.
The shawls, scarves, quilts projects are starting to sweep the
nation. We are on to something very moving and deep here and I am grateful
to all those of you who are knitting them, delivering them, promoting
the program, honoring families, healing loved ones. Thank you all.
WELCOME NEW EMAIL CORRESPONDENTS:
Marsha Johnson (a woman crocheting shawls), Lilibeth (starting a DV
organization in Lawrence, MA), Michelle Sagan (Student activist, part
of Women Will, Providence College, RI), Hiroko Nasu Okumura (SW
Women's Center, Japan, new email address), Teresa Khorrami (New SW exhibit,
Onalaska, TX), Kathy Anderson, Mary Theodore (Maryville, MO), Pam Colbert
(Ohio, new email address)
ATTENTION: If you are a mother, daughter, grandmother
or sister of a woman or man who's been murdered in domestic violence
and would like to receive a
comforting hand made shawl to remind you of the care and love of others
please contact me. We have shawls available and would love to give you
If you know of other women who have a loved one who has been murdered
let us know her name as well. We also have a limited number of scarves
men who are close relatives of murdered women. Thanks. Please pass this
word along so the healing can move forward. Jhagberg@mn.rr.com
We also have quilts for kids whose mothers were murdered
in acts of DV. To request a quilt for a kid contact Augusta Rodgers email@example.com
To send a quilt for a kid, please send to
c/o Women's Resource Center
77 East 5th Street
Winona, MN 55987
NEWS FROM THE STATES/COUNTRIES:
My name is Kendra Arimoto and I am a senior at Stanford University. In February,
just a few months ago, my student organization and I coordinated a
silent witness exhibit that consisted of 20 silhouettes for the University.
This was in conjunction with V-Week, a week of events, programs, panels,
shows, etc that were meant to provide awareness and education about issues
relating to violence against women and girls. The SW exhibit in particular
had a huge impact on the student body. It even made the front page or
Stanford Daily and became the center of many student discussions.
*Kendra, you did a great job of bringing awareness and
resources to your
campus. I can't wait to see what you'll do once you are in the work force! Keep in touch with us. We love it.
Maryland Secretary of Public Safety and Correctional Services Mary Ann
Saar has presented Patricia Lupson an award in honor of her tireless
rights work. Mrs. Lupson received the honor during Maryland¹s kickoff
National Victims¹ Rights Week April 6-13, 2003. Secretary
Saar spoke of Mrs. Lupson¹s efforts before a large audience
in the Mondawmin Mall
Community Room in Baltimore, where the Maryland Division of Parole and
Probation hosted the special victims¹ rights event. "On
behalf of the
Maryland Department of Public Safety and Correctional Services, I am
happy to honor you for your commitment and compassion as a victims'
rights advocate," said Secretary Saar. "Patricia Lupson
lost three loved ones to
murder. Now, her life is dedicated to helping other victims learn their
rights and cope with grief."
Mrs. Lupson¹s courageous fight for victims began when
she herself became a
victim in the most terrible way: in June of 1993, her daughter and two grandchildren
died in an arson-homicide in Pennsylvania. Since then, Mrs.
Lupson has devoted countless hours to helping other victims, and speaking to offenders in prisons in Maryland and in other states.
*Great work, Pat. You just keep on going and going and
going. Your story is
so powerful and we are proud of the work you do in the community.
Also from Maryland:
Our friends, Rosemary Raiman and Fern Brown hosted an event with the
East Coast Motorcycle Association in an effort to raise awareness
of DV and raise funds as well. I think working with motorcycle
clubs is a great idea and
will be excited to hear how it turned out. Thanks, you two for all this
Nancy Carolyn Kwant sends us their update.
The MA Silent Witnesses have been displayed throughout
three buildings at the Upham's Corner Health Center in Dorchester.
They even translated some
of the plates into Spanish, which we are going to have a volunteer continue
with, so that the breastplates will be available in both languages. They
were also a part of an Anti-Hate Week at Newbury College. The students
there are also giving a few figures a new coat of paint as part of a
volunteer week at the college. The Massachusetts Office of Victim Assistance
recently had its statewide conference 27 figures were displayed
throughout the conference center. As I was loading them back into my
*Carolyn, you are effecting so many people with these new
locations for the SW exhibit. Getting the college students to
paint them is wonderful too, so they get to see the stories. Nice
work. I'll be excited to hear about the
I heard one lady remark, "Now that was really powerful-to read all
those stories...." The children figures seems to really make
people stop and take a moment. The Essex County Exhibit was featured
at the Square One Mall in Saugus and we hope to have them displayed
at two major walks that support two Essex County domestic violence
agencies at the end of April. One is the Walk for HAWC (Help for Abused Women and Their Children) and the other
is for the Women's Crisis Center of Newburyport. So far, Massachusetts
seven deaths this year. Peace at Home is also hosting an event in May
entitled Peaceful Beginnings, where the figures will also be displayed.
Peace at Home is going to Prague for the World Conference on Family Violence
and I look forward to meeting our collaborators in Hungary as Janet has
me they might be there presenting.
Nate Russell, a project coordinator for Family and Children's Service,
is heading up 100 Men Take A Stand. This program allows black
men to break the silence in order to take a stand against domestic
violence. At a gathering
in March, more than 100 black men listened as their peers told stories
how their lives had been effected by domestic violence. They signed a
six-point pledge that called for men to do everything from challenging
abusive behaviors they see, to providing young people with the resources
encouragement to form violence-free relationships.
One man told of being separated from his family at a young
age because of DV. He said that everybody has some kind of experience
with it and he considers it important to speak out on this issue--an
issue that many people
consider taboo. Another man said DV had touched the lives of both his
and close friends and that he felt powerless to do anything to stop the
abuse. One man told of being violent with his wife, a behavior he saw
too often in his childhood. He said he was forced to unlearn some of
messages he received as a child and that by sharing his story and taking
pledge that evening, he was taking a important step forward. To learn
or get a program going in your state contact Nate Russell.
*This is one of the most powerful things I have seen lately for men.
Allowing them to tell their stories of childhood lets them share in the
pain of DV and is part of their healing process. Nice going Nate.
An update on the Silent Witness Display in the Grandview Mid-Continent Library last week...
Excellent response from the local police departments and Library visitors. There
is a sense of community developing as a result of just this single event.
I talk to so many people who feel some sense of isolation, as though they
are just one person and can't make a difference. This provided a forum for
both the community and DV professionals to contribute and we are
continuing to work on scheduling the Silent Witness around the area.
We provided comment cards, one I'll share because it was so poignant "I
wish I could do something, but I'm only 16 and no job or money" This
girl did include a name and telephone number so we'll get her
involved somehow. One other I share because it validates our efforts, "So
sad to hear their stories. Thanks for telling them. If I have
a chance to intervene, this will help make the decision" Also,
thanks to all of you who responded to my requests for book titles
-- your help is greatly appreciated ! Jody Carroll
When I ran Jody's story in the last newsletter, I forgot to list her
Here it is: firstname.lastname@example.org The Mid Continent Library in Grandview,
MO will display the Silent Witness silhouettes (13 of them) from
4/17/03 - 4/24/03. We've collected materials from the various
shelters in the area,
from MCADV, and the Attorney General's office to have available for those
interested. A book list (Kids and adults) was organized as well .. though we
are short on Kids titles, if anyone knows some good ones, that would
really helpful! We've also set up specific times for a wide variety of
professionals to be available in the library for questions or discussion generated
from those who see the Silent Witness silhouettes (attorney,
clergy, advocates, friends and family of DV victims, "success stories" etc).