March 8, 2002
Celebrate International Women's Day today.
I am back from a trip to southern
California visiting Silent Witness coordinators and community activists
there. What an inspirational trip. I am always moved to my core to see all
the wonderful things you all are doing in the world. I have now visited 15
states in the last 18 months. I hope to visit the rest of the states in
the next few years. So if you would like me to come for some special
event, please let me know and I'll see what we can arrange.
My calendar this month highlights Mothering Sunday in the UK, St.
Patrick's Day, St. Joseph's Day in Spain, the first day of Spring (or
Fall, depending on where you live), Vernal Equinox in Japan, Passover,
Good Friday and Easter. Quite an array of observances. Let's all stay
connected by reaching out to each other and let's bring healing to the
WELCOME NEW EMAIL CORRESPONDENTS:
Mary Lou Biasotto (Director, Family Support Network, Tortola, British
Virgin Islands), Sandy Broce (SW Exhibit, Women's Resource Center,
Oceanside, CA), Suzanne Buderer (SW Exhibit, Workforce Partnership, San
Diego), Kimberly Pearce (Sr. Victim Service Coordinator, SD City
Atty's Office), Natalie Williams (SW Exhibit, 1736 Family Crisis Center,
LA), Jeremy Jilka (1736 Family Crisis Center, LA), Kathy Dice (Rural Calif
DV program), Wendi Woods Chandler (Pres. Elect Elect, Jr. League of LA),
Terri Weeden (SPAC Rep., Jr. League of LA), Pauline Musgrove (DV
Specialist, Oklahoma Coalition), Emily (Survivor, college student,
Richmond VA), Melissa Warner (Michigan, new email address)
NEWS FROM THE STATES/COUNTRIES:
Lizzy Poole writes us that a lot is happening in Key West for
International Women's Day today:
Here's what's happening in Key West on March 8 - International Women's
Day. It was decided to focus on peace, and as the coordinator says,
"Peace does not have to remain just a time between wars. Just like
going to Chicago for example, first we have to decide to go there. Then we
map the way. And then we go." There are so many booths setting up
that they are too numerous to mention. It's going to be big. They plan a
community pot luck with food labeled as to ingredients. The Key West Film
Society is showing two movies as soon as it gets dark -
one on Cuba.
*Thanks, Lizzy. This event sounds full and wonderful. sorry I didn't have
room to list everything but we wish you the best.
Stephanie Frank writes us about her sorority using Silent Witness:
Hello, My name is Stephanie Frank and I am interested in bringing the
Silent Witness program to my campus the week of my sorority's major
philanthropy, Sig Delt Dude. All of the proceeds go to Prevent Child
Abuse America, last year we raised $5,000 and our goal for this year is
$7,000. I am the Vice President of Sigma Delta Tau at Bradley
University in Peoria, Illinois. I was wondering how I would go about
bringing this wonderful program to our campus. I would have the
display up the whole week, April 15- 20th and we are planning on having a
speaker come and talk about abuse on the 16th.
*It is wonderful to see how many colleges are using or making Silent
Witness exhibits. Go for it Stephanie.
Susan Fuller, our Maine SW Coordinator sends a short and upbeat note:
We are going full blast here in Maine. Recently provided trainings
to the USMCriminology Class and to the new Graduate Social Work Program
with Wayland. (Wayland is her significant other who works with her and
also sponsors vigils that men plan and attend whenever a woman is murdered
in Maine.. Go Wayland).
*Keep up the good work. Full speed ahead.
Hers is great news from Pat Lupson, mother and grandmother of DV
victims and an activist with Silent Witness:
I went to the candle page of the SW web site and lit a candle for Gina and
the boys. Thank you for offering that to the world. It's cool!
I have the candle burning as I type this - what a warm feeling to
see this light in memory of my kids.
I have been selected by the American Correctional Association to make a
presentation about the Impact of Crime prison program that Warren and I
are involved in -- at the annual convention in California this summer!!!
It's our position - if just one of the inmates "get the
message" we are delivering about domestic violence and murder-then it
has been worth our energy and we have done honor to our kid's memory.
*Pat, this is wonderful, that your work in the prisons for these last
several years is paying off big time. More power to you.
Tracy Lakatua, our SW Coordinator in Missoula writes this exciting
Our "Love Without Fear Week" in Missoula was a great success!
Each year The Missoula Family Violence Council designates the week
of Valentine's Day to be "Love Without Fear Week," and sponsors
events that address domestic violence. We kicked off the week with
the our Interdenominational Healing Ceremony, which featured prayer, music
and songs. This year we dedicated our eight new Missoula-area Silent
Witnesses at the event and we were lucky enough to be able to commemorate
the event with a reading of a new poem written by our friend Roseann
Lloyd. Roseann, an award-winning poet, is one of the founders of the
original Silent Witness exhibit. She is also a former Missoulian,
who moved to Minnesota years ago, fleeing her abusive husband. Roseann
agreed to write a poem especially for our dedication (it
follows below). We had seven family members of Silent Witness women
at the event, including four who drove in from Kalispell, more than 2
hours away. One woman, Betty Umphrey, had connections to two of our
figures: she lost her sister in 1993 and her 17-year-old daughter in 1995.
She herself is a survivor and has been newly galvanized by attending
this event. It was astonishingly powerful and made even more so by
having the poem and families as part of the ceremony.
On the next night we held a Teen Dating Violence Panel at one of the local
high schools --- the high school that our 17-year-old Silent Witness
attended. Our panelists included therapists who work with families
and court-ordered men, a teen-aged advocate at the YWCA, a professor of
psychology, the coordinator of the University's Student Assault and
Recovery Services, and Betty Umphrey and her high-school-aged niece
Glenda, whose mother was killed in 1993. What a marvelous group!
Chris Fiore, Ph.D. shared some of her research on how battered
women come to make a change in their lives. Her group has
interviewed nearly 400 women and a clear majority of them experienced teed
dating violence, but didn't know to call it that. Glenda, who has an
uncommonly keen grasp on the concept of healthy relationships said:
"I've got friends whose boyfriends call them dozens of times during
the day, are always showing up when their not expected and always trying
to find out where they are --- I tell them that's not love, that's
stalking!!" I think the panel and members of the audience were
left with a clear directive to look at how we can educate teens early on.
Our Missoula YWCA and the MFVC will now be taking a very close look
at Rosalind Wiseman's Empower Programs. This is so exciting!! We
rounded out the week with two sold-out performances of the Vagina
Monologues. This Thursday is the YWCA's Salute to Excellence, where
we will be raising more money for the local and statewide Silent Witness
programs. Janet, this is so invigorating to see such action and
commitment to progress in our community!
I leave you with Roseann's Poem. I love her work --- as usual, the
the cadence is so skillful yet seemingly effortless. The echo of
sounds within the verse is subtle magic. And the intimacy and
imperative (and the intimacy of the imperative) work on many levels.
For the Missoula-area women whose Silent Witness figures were dedicated
February 11, 2002 ---
BE MY WITNESS:
For Janis Poitras Hansen, Jo Reilly, Julia Hawkines, Nanette Hansen, Tambi
Weinberger, Lavonne Kennedy, Kathy Sullivan, Josie Salois
Be my witness
I, too, once walked these streets and canyons.
I, too, caught my breath at the vast expanses of mountain and sky
cottonwood seeds floating over the river and town.
I, too, relaxed in Caras Park, talked with a friend.
I, too, loved to drive the freeway, with my music on.
Be my witness.
I, too, walked these streets and canyons.
I, too, took care of ordinary chores: folded laundry, mopped floors, kept
Summers, I tended the garden, stopped by Broadway Market for Italian
It pleased me to make the photo albums, to remember birthdays,
to decorate the Christmas tree.
Be my witness.
I, too, walked these streets and canyons.
I, too, loved a feast of rainbow trout--second only to huckleberry-apple
I loved the fresh smell of clothes hung out on the line to dry.
I, too, had dreams rocking a baby in an old oak rocking chair,
soaking in Lolo Hot Springs without fear.
Be my witness
I, too, walked these streets and canyons.
I worked. I dreamed. I loved.
I, too, once loved my life.
Be my witness.
I wanted to live a life of peace, not pain.
Be my witness.
Remember my name.
Poem by Roseann Lloyd, January, 2002
*It goes without saying how moving this event was and will continue to be
through Roseann's poem. What a tribute. Thanks all. We'll put this poem on
This great note from Mark Adams, Shelter Director in New Mexico:
Last October we brought Gloria Champion's exhibit from the Navajo Nation
around the Four Corners area to eastern New Mexico. The response
from our community was very positive and our agency is working with an
interdisciplinary group to produce our own exhibit.
So far we have funding to produce silhouettes, a video documenting the
stories told by survivors of the witnesses and construction of the
silhouettes. We have collected 6 cases of domestic homicide in our
area and will soon have many more. Our plan is to enlist an
articulate survivor to help us contact other survivors so that we can
secure their stories. We are hoping to have at between 8 and 12
witnesses by October. Our agency has agreed to house the project and
serve as the primary contact and support for it.
Also, I saw a very powerful exhibit from your national office in Santa Fe
five or six years ago. Sara Buel read the stories as escorts brought in
the silhouettes accompanied by candle bearers, all over Samuel Barber's
Adagio for Strings. I am looking to this presentation as the most powerful
thing I've ever seen.
*Thanks, Mark. This is exciting news. We are thrilled that New Mexico has
multiple exhibits. Please write us about the events that you sponsor for
the Silent Witnesses.
PITTSBURGH STARTS POSTER PROJECT
Pittsburgh volunteers have taken on a new aspect of the domestic violence
education campaign; a poster project to inform women about domestic
violence and how to help themselves. The newly created posters, funded by
three local anonymous donors, are being displayed in bathrooms, bars,
restaurants, malls, hospitals, office buildings, college dorms and student
unions. The screen on the poster is similar to the life-sized wooden cut
outs that are part of the traveling exhibit which appear around the
community. The posters provide telephone numbers for community agencies
that can provide help to women in abusive relationships.
A kickoff lunch was held to launch the distribution of the posters to
community businesses. "The response from the community has been
extremely positive," said Twyla Sable, chairperson of the poster
project. "Even college students have become involved in our effort.
They have helped us get the posters displayed on various Pittsburgh area
colleges." A local CBS affiliate covered the kickoff and the
piece was aired twice. Prior to the performance of The Vagina Monologues,
representatives of SWI in Pittsburgh, were in the lobby providing
informational literature and emergency telephone numbers to individuals.
The play, a national sensation, locally produced and acted by University
of Pittsburgh women from the Campus Women's Group featured 10 red
life-sized silhouettes as the only set. Productions ran on Friday,
February 15, 2002, all over the country to honor the victims of domestic
Cardboard Silent Witness 8" high figures (red) with stand (black) are
still available. They are useful for display purposes and public
relations. If you are planning to order, please do so soon before the
supply runs out. The cost is $40 per100 figures, including shipping and
handling. To order, contact Sheri Minkoff, NCJW, Pittsburgh, at email@example.com
*Wow, this is amazing and inspiring. Thanks, Sheri, Twyla and all involved
for an outstanding event. We are awed.
A note about our great activists, Melanie Martin and Nancy Rafi
Melanie is taking the lead role with Roger Williams University and is
helping them on March 23rd to MAKE their Witnesses for their project - it
should be a great event, as they have support from the top down at their
school.. They are making 10 Witnesses, and have already put their
paperwork together (something they did over the winter months) so their
Witnesses will be ready for their first "outing" in April on the
campus. Then, 8 students & 2 staff members are volunteering for
our The Vagina Monologues production on the 24th! Nice
collaboration, don't you think?
Nancy is hosting the Vagina Monologues: The Silent Witnesses of Rhode
Island's benefit production of Eve Ensler's The Vagina Monologues is being
held on Sunday, March 24th at 2:00PM at the historic Jane Pickens Theatre
in downtown Newport, Rhode Island. I have 4 local women who will be
on stage reading the monologues, with 100% of the proceeds going to 3
groups - Silent Witnesses of RI; the RI Victims' Advocacy & Support
Center, & the Revolutionary Association of the Women of Afghanistan.
It's been such a thrill to be a part of this bigger picture, and it was a
natural fit to expose my community to the work that Silent Witness does
here in Rhode Island.
Our doors will open at 12:45PM for our VIP ticket holders, for a
pre-production soiree in the lobby of the theatre, being catered by
Glorious Affairs caterers & Greenvale Vineyards, Portsmouth, RI.
General admission ticket holders ($20 each) will be allowed in at
1:30PM. A local Newport woman, Leslie Henry will be providing us
with original music, and there will be 9 tables filled with information
about various social service agencies in our community that work with
women & children affected by violence - a true collaborative effort!
We'll have tables from the Women's Resource Center of Newport, the
RI chapter of the National Organization of Women, Planned Parenthood,
Sisters Overcoming Abusive Relationships, Child & Family Services,
Newport County Mental Health Center & the Sexual Assault & Trauma
Center all staffed and loaded with information for everyone to take home
with them. Of course we'll also have several of our Witnesses
throughout the theatre.
*You go "girls", both Silent Witnesses and Melanie and Nancy!
More details to follow. And see the Eziba product opportunity associated
with the Vagina Monologues in the next section of this newsletter.
NEWS FROM WORLDWIDE HEADQUARTERS:
Janet's trip to California:
I had a fabulous trip to San Diego and Los Angeles recently. Here is a
brief summary of the wonderful people and programs I got to see. A
special thanks to Gael Strack (and her family) who housed me and planned
for many of the things I did in SD, Kimberly Pearce who escorted me
around SD and to Joanne Coghill who planned for my great meetings in LA.
All are angels.
Women's Resource Center: I visited Sandy Broce who is the SW
coordinator in Oceanside. She has a unique set of Witnesses that fold in
the middle so they can be put in body bags that are smaller and easier to
carry. They are all padded with quilts inside. Isn't that poignant? They
have 14 figures currently. What a great job they are doing. Thanks, Sandy
San Diego Workforce Partnership: I met with Suzanne Buderer who is
the SW coordinator for that agency. They got their Witnesses as a result
of a 15 Year-old Eagle Scout named David Oakes creating a SW exhibit
as a scout project. What a wonderful and unique idea. These Witnesses are
co-sponsored with East Side County Services, Debbie Comstock, Director.
San Diego DV Council: I was invited to attend and speak to the SD
Domestic Violence Council, made up of people from all facets of the
community. It is an illustrious group. Dr. Cindy Kelps is the coordinator,
a doctor with Children's Hospital. An important issue facing SD is the
election for District Attorney. This office has a key role in prosecuting
felonies related to DV.
Julian's Sanctuary: I was invited to visit a transitional housing
program sponsored by the Episcopal Church in SD. Camey Christenson, the
Program Director, toured us around. It is a wonderful facility with a lot
of programming and lots of resources.
San Diego City Attorney: I got a full tour of the SD City
Attorney's Office, Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Division. Gael
Strack is Assistant City Attorney and is in charge of that office. What a
window into a miraculous system that has had so much success. Kimberly
Pearce, my guide for the day, also works in this office as a Senior Victim
Services Coordinator. I even got a quick trip to the DV court so I could
see where the action happens. Unfortunately they had just recessed as I
came around the corner!
Office of Violence Prevention, San Diego County: Julie Serrano, the
Director of the DV Response Teams, described the role and activity of the
response teams. And Matt Herbst described the new youth programming they
are working with in the high schools. When their research is complete in
December, this could become a Results Project for Silent Witness. Great!
Center for Community Solutions: Steve Allen (Legal Dept) and Liza
Boyer (Counseling Center) described what they are doing in the community
regarding sexual assault, DV programming, the Men's Awareness Day and
counseling for perpetrators and survivors. We may form a partnership with
their counseling agency. That would be really great.
Casey Gwinn, SD City Attorney: I even got to spend some quality
time with Casey Gwinn, the SD City Attorney who has spearheaded the
successful court project there. They have a phenomenal prosecution rate
and conviction rate as I reported in an earlier newsletter. More on their
research in another issue. On a humorous note, I was elated to find out
that one of Casey's responsibilities in the last year was to clear a way
for the baseball team to start playing in their new stadium. I just
couldn't resist mentioning that since many of you know what a baseball fan
Gael even set up a great dinner with members of the DV Council so I could
get to know them and the issues better. It was great to hear their
perspectives on the issues and to hear all the work they had done together
over the years. It is a wonderful collaboration.
After all this activity in SD, I headed up to LA for dinner with Joanne
Coghill, my friend and colleague, and a meeting with the board of the Jr.
League of LA.
Jr. League of LA and 1736 Family Crisis Center: We have had a long
standing and mighty relationship with the Jr. League of LA. They brought
several people to the march in Washington, they developed and coordinated
the Silent Witness exhibit, and they have worked tirelessly in the high
schools on high visibility programs. Now they have turned the SW exhibit
over to a new agency, 1736 Family Crisis Center. I met Natalie Williams
and Jeremy Jilka of that center and had dinner with them. We are so
grateful to that agency for taking on the exhibit and we will be eager to
hear of the events they sponsor in the community.
Joanne Coghill, one of the primary Silent Witness organizers in LA, set up
a meeting of several board members and we toured the Jr. League Office, an
elegant stone house in the city. We got to talk about the possibilities of
other projects that the Jr. League could take on and there was excitement
about our collaboration. I met with M'Leigh Koziol (President),
Mauria McDonald (President Elect), Wendi Woods Chandler (President Elect
Elect), Bonnie Wong (Public Policy Director), Terri Weeden (SPAC
Representative), and Joanne Coghill (Centennial Chair). Lucia Nordstrom
who was not able to be there was one of the speakers at the march in
Washington and another strong supporter. I was particularly moved by the
three Silent Witness figures that stand permanently in the Jr. League
office along with Joanne's Murder Meter that she designed for SW a few
years ago. Thank you all again for a wonderful trip.
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Rosalind Wiseman's Owning Up/Empower program in New York Times Magazine
Go see the New York Times Magazine for Sunday, February 24 for a
feature article about Rosalind Wiseman's program for adolescent girls. The
title of the article is "Mean Girls and the new movement to tame
them." It chooses one small aspect of her program: the nasty side of
girls and the way in which they undercut each other. Rosalind's program is
for boys too but this article features the new research on girls in middle
school and high school.
Janet Hagberg's Web Site
Many of you do not know that I work on Silent Witness activities
primarily as a volunteer. My other work is public speaking and writing and
my most requested topic is Soul Leadership. I just developed a web site
describing my work and it gave me an idea. If any of you are members of
organizations that hire speakers at the state or national level for
conferences or conventions I would be willing to lower my speaker's fee as
a favor to you and then come and visit the Silent Witness coordinators and
activists in the area as part of the trip. I think that way everyone would
win. My new web site is www.janethagberg.com
There is even a quiet page on the site where you can go and rest, listen
to beautiful music and light a candle. Enjoy.